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How to be positive? Essential for success in life

Written by Banani Chakraborty

How to be positive is essential for success in life. Researchers showed the immense physical and mental benefits of positivity. We must remember this. Everyone wants to be positive. They are annoyed by this problem.

To be positive means feeling positive not only during good days but also during tuff times. Every human face several obstacles and setbacks in life. If you know how to be positive, then you will be able to think constructively and work towards betterment whatever be the situation. As a result, you can overcome tuff times as well as any challenge in life. It will not only better your confidence, but also your mood. Moreover, it can reduce or protect the development of your mental disorder like stress, hypertension, depression.

[Also read how to deal with depression?]

How to be positive? Essential for success in life.

To begin with, the “power of positive thinking” is a well-known concept. A positive mindset may provide several benefits. Some of these benefits are:

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  • At first, it betters our mood.
  • Secondly, it gives us motivation.
  • Thirdly, positivity improves our self-confidence.
  • Moreover, it lowers our stress as well as anxiety.
  • Further, it helps to keep us cool.
  • Furthermore, it minimizes our level of depression along with hypertension.
  • Above all, it helps us to get success in our life.

Therefore, you can easily understand the importance of how to be positive.

What do you mean by how to be positive?

Generally, we think that the word ‘positive’ means ‘happy’. But, it does not mean only our happiness. To tell the truth, we may remain positive in our lives in many ways.

Even, we may remain positive while we are experiencing sorrow or facing challenges or in anger or in trouble.

According to the researchers, we have the strong will power to choose positive emotions. Moreover, we possess the capability of positive ways of thinking. As a matter of fact, our feelings literally bring the cellular level of change in our bodies.

Actually, many situations in our life are the result of how we interpret them and as well as our response.  If we change our interpretation, then our response changes. Consequently, the situation also changes.

Fortunately, we can get rid of or limit our negative emotions with the help of our changed interpretation as well as response.

What are the steps for how to be positive?

To be positive, you need some practice with perseverance and patience. The following tips will help you to learn how to be positive. If you can follow the below steps, then they will help you to think positively in any condition.

1. Accept where you are:

So long you cannot recognize the problem, you will not be able to bring any change. At first, you have to accept that you possess negative emotions and thoughts. Therefore, you are not enjoying your present way of response. Hence, you need to change the process.


But do not judge yourself for your emotions and thoughts. They are not good or bad. They are simply your emotions and thoughts. However, you can control your experience of feelings and the thoughts that pop up immediately. Then, you can easily change your interpretation or way of thinking. With changed interpretation, your response will automatically change.

Accept your attributes that you cannot change immediately. For example, you may be introvert or arrogant. If you try to be extrovert or humble, then it will either drain you or make you unhappy. So, accept yourself as you are for the time being. Now, you will feel free to change yourself to be the most positive one.

2. Set goals:

This is another very important step to be positive. In short, goals are an integral part of success in life. However, it is the all-important first step to make your dreams a reality. A goal is actually an idea of the future. Generally, a man

  • At first, visualizes
  • Then plans and
  • Finally commits to achieve

A goal.

After that, one needs to set goals. This is the right action for success. Effective goal settings will help to accomplish goals in life with the focused and decisive way through right actions in lesser time. Researchers find that setting realistic goals will instantly boost your

  • Motivation
  • Efficacy and
  • confidence.

Hence, it will help you to be positive.

Tips for setting realistic goals:

In the first place, your goals should be exclusively yours. Do not try to follow others. Your goals must bear your passion along with a huge sensation in your life. If you fail to achieve them, then you will miss a lot in your life.

Moreover, they will be SMART.

  • S: Specific.
  • M: Measurable.
  • A: Attainable.
  • R: Realistic.
  • T: Time-bound.

Added to this, they will entirely depend upon your own actions. To fulfil your dreams, you need not the support of others. Because you can control only yourself, not others.

If you want to achieve your goals, then attribute them with positive words. It will help you to be positive. Your goals must be something that you are not trying to avoid. Rather, your goals will be something that you are working for. For example, if you say “I will stop eating junk food”, then it will not help you as it is a negative goal. Thus, it will frustrate you as well as demotivate you. It is a negative way of approach.

Instead, you can say

“I will follow healthy eating habits. I will take 3 servings of fruits, daily. The fruits must be from

[Also read aloe Vera and red wine].

It is not only specific but also help you to be positive. Therefore, it makes sense.

3. Practice gratitude:

“Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some”: Charles Dickens.

“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness”: Dalai Lama.

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for”: Zig Ziglar.

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity… it makes sense for our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow”: Melody Beattie.

“Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude”: Denis Waitley.

“We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives”: John F. Kennedy.

To tell the truth, gratitude is the best attitude to be positive along with shine in life. It influences a man’s entire perspective. Gratitude means “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”.

Several scientifically proven benefits of gratitude are:

  • At first, it boosts our productivity.
  • Secondly, enhance our resilience.
  • Thirdly, betters our relationships with others.
  • Added to this, it fosters our health both physically and mentally.
  • Besides, it encourages compassion as well as increases feelings of happiness.

Therefore, always express your gratitude to all. If you naturally possess a higher level of “trait gratitude”, then there is no problem. Otherwise, start to express gratitude towards five persons daily, at the beginning.

You may daily say one to five sentences of thankfulness to your

  • Close friend or friends.
  • Love and relations.
  • Parents.
  • Child.
  • Co-worker or co-employee or business partner and etc.

You may savour all these good things. Maintain a gratitude journal. Note down all the good things that you experience per day. It will be better if you can take mental snapshots of some of them and remember them later particularly when you face a real tuff time. These will work well to be positive always.

4. Cultivate optimism:

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”: Winston Churchill.

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”: Helen Keller.

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars”: Oscar Wilde.

“Optimism is the madness of insisting that all is well when we are miserable”: Voltaire.

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces; I would still plant my apple tree”: Martin Luther.

In the first place, it is an act of hopeful anticipation regarding a favourable future.  Optimism means to look at the bright aspects of things.  It is another extremely vital way to be positive.

Some very common idioms to express optimism:

  • Everything is coming up roses.
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  • When one door closes, another one opens.
  • There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
  • When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
  • Seeing the glass half full instead of half empty.

Benefits of optimism:

Optimism provides you with several benefits. Some of them are:

  • At first, it improves your general sense of well-being
  • Secondly, it promotes self-esteem.
  • Thirdly, it improves your relationship with others.
  • Fourthly, it brings your peace of mind.
  • Besides, it develops your productivity.
  • Moreover, it enhances different coping skills to combat life’s struggles.
  • Further, it helps you deal with your failures constructively.
  • However, it reduces the level of stress in life.
  • Above all, it enhances our level of happiness.

Optimism is, therefore, an approach of interpretation. In fact, different people interpret a given situation in different ways.


In the first place, the human brain is very flexible and we have to learn these different ways of interpretation. Pessimists view the world in a negative or depressed as well as unchangeable manner.

They always say like

  • “I cannot do this.”
  • “I will never get success”.
  • “Everything is unfair.”
  • “I will never be able to change”.

An optimist always sees the possibility. Therefore, it helps him to be positive.

He knows that he can do anything. Only he needs to work hard or learn something new. He is always willing to give his best effort. That is the only thing he can do. Optimists know that in life there will be

  • Challenges.
  • Negative experiences.
  • Defeats.

They know that these situations will always bring the opportunity to learn something new along with self-development. They gladly prepare themselves for hard work.

5. Maintain a journal:

In fact, it is a very good habit to be positive. Develop a habit of writing all the things and thoughts that pop up in your mind all through the day.

Some of the advantages of keeping a journal are:

  • Keep track of important decisions.
  • Enhance your organizational skills.
  • Set and achieve your goals.
  • Interactions with people.
  • Boosting memory and comprehension.
  • Organize as well as explore your thoughts.
  • Daily reflections and self-awareness as you record ideas on the go.
  • Relieve stress. It will, therefore, help you as a stress management technique.
  • Strengthen your self-discipline.

Actually there is a mathematical formula to be positive. According to modern research, three positive emotions against every single negative emotion is good. As you are keeping a journal, so it will assist you to conclude whether your emotions need adjustments. Moreover, it will help you to focus only on positive emotions. Additionally, it will aid you to remember them as future reference.

Remember one thing that you will not write down the negative things or experiences only. It will not only reinforce them but also make you negative. Instead, write down all experiences without judging them as either good or bad.

Now, think your instant reactions as well as response. Besides, can you learn anything from them and how can you use them for your progress.

6. Don’t sweat the small stuff:

There are numerous things in our life that seem to be important as of now. Everyone remains busy to confront such incidents. Our life is full of delays, inconveniences, worries and frustrations like

  • A traffic jam.
  • Losing keys or pens.
  • Forgetting money purse or mobile phones.
  • Late for an appointment.

However, these little things worry us and we sweat the small stuff. To be positive, we need not to sweat this small stuff.

But, afterwards, with the proper perspective, we can feel that they are really not an issue. Actually, they work as reasons for our set back in life.

Researchers also showed that such happenings will not make us happy. As per researchers’ suggestion to flourish in life, we need the following five basic things.

  • Positive attitudes and emotions.
  • Relationships with others.
  • Accomplishments (Seligman 2011).
  • Engagement.
  • Meaning.

Remember, you will define only yours. If you do not find anything personal, you cannot feel good.

7. Practice mindfulness:

It is another important aspect to be positive. As per Greater Good Science Centre at Barkley, mindfulness is “maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environments, through a gentle, nurturing lens.”

Actually, it is meditation. Here people focus on an intense awareness of their emotions at this moment without judgement and interpretation. Some tips and techniques for practising mindfulness:

  • Pay attention to your breathing and emotions.
  • Recognize your thoughts and emotions.
  • Notice your sensations, the sights, the sounds, the smells in a given moment.
  • Feel your body’s physical sensation.

Below are a few ways of its application in positive psychology:

  • Stress-management technique.
  • Self-care instrument.
  • Overcome depression along with other mood disorders.
  • Relaxation strategy and coping method.
  • Boost employee’s wellness and decrease job burnout.
  • Improves sleep.

(Read my articles on sleep. It will help you a great deal in life not only to be positive but also help you from all corners.

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It is beneficial to fight out situations like

  • Anxiety.
  • Pain.
  • Stress.
  • Insomnia.
  • Depression
  • Hypertension (High blood pressure.)

Researchers find that a combination of mindfulness and positive psychology will resist the above situations.

At first, you have to practice it for six months or so. Over time, it will be easy and effortless. Because this quality is inherent in human.

8. Do some Exercise:

It is also vital to be positive. The human body releases natural “feel-good” hormones like endorphins at the time of exercise. It is also helpful to

Therefore, do at least 30 minutes of exercise daily. It may be jogging, walking, swimming, cycling, gardening or any sort of physical movement.

You may also include some meditation or yoga with this

9.Reiterate self-affirmations:

This is also important to be positive. Positive self-affirmations, as well as self-talk, can minimize pain, anxiety, fear and negativity.


At first, positive affirmations are phrases and mantras. They describe either what you want to be or a specific outcome. In the first place, they may not be true. But, our subconscious mind will believe them due to constant repetition. You may call it the power of spoken words.

Examples of some positive self-affirmations maybe

  • I will follow healthy eating habits.
  • I am a winner.
  • My body is a temple. I will keep my temple clean.
  • I believe in my leadership qualities and abilities.
  • There is nobody better than me to get the job done.
  • I dare to be different.
  • Success will be my driving force.
  • Happiness is within my grasp.

Always choose those affirmations that are meaningful to you. If you are struggling with any specific area, then find suitable positive affirmations for that area.  They will help you to be positive.

You are looking to quit junk food. Then you may say something like:

10.Create life from within:

Because you want more success, then focus on those ways that gave you results or success, earlier.

For example, you want to maintain flawless skin, craving of all women or acne-free skin.

Now think what you did to get this flawless skin or what you did to get rid of acne.

It may be washing your face for clearer and healthier skin.

You have a specific routine to use your skincare products.

Moreover, you may use a particular brand of sunscreen cream along with the use of hats or sunglass or covered dress to tackle harmful UV rays.

However, it may be the use of home-made rosewater.

Now, if you want to make it better, then strictly follow all those that gave you the result. Focus on them and carry on them. This will help you to care your skin, as you wanted this.

If you think of better health, then strictly follow all the ways that you followed so far.

On the other hand, say you want more love. Come in close touch on all those people that cared you so far. Focus on them along with others and give then the abundance of love.

11.Know how to use your body:

Both your body and mind are intimately inter-related. As you are facing problem to be positive, your body may be the reason.

The dress has a vital effect on your feelings. This is a proven fact. You wear dresses to express yourself. It affects your feelings. Therefore, always wear those dresses that give you feel-good experience.

According to social psychologists our postures are also responsible for our bodies stress hormones levels. You must try to stand up straight with chest forward and shoulders back.  And looking forward. This “power pose” will not only increase your confidence and optimism but also your self-esteem.


Smile is another important aspect to be positive. Researchers suggest to smile always, when you smile, your brain helps to promote your mood. Some smile not only activates muscles of your mouth but also around your eyes. It is a proven fact, that if people can smile during painful medical processes, then their pain is less than that of non-smilers.

12.Learn to reframe negative experiences:

Generally, people mistakenly try to ignore or avoid negative experiences. This is good up to a certain level as these events are painful. But you have to face numerous such events in life. You cannot survive to avoid them. As you are trying to repress them, therefore you are damaging your ability to fight and overcome such strenuous situations.

Therefore, learning to reframe your negative experiences is essential to be positive.

Rather, try to learn the techniques to reframe your negative experiences. Try to learn something new and view them differently.

At first, take them as blessings. Actually, there may be some opportunities. They are going to bring some positive changes in your life.

Therefore, do not instantaneously respond with negativity to a negative experience or challenge. Rather, take a short pause. Even you can step back. Now examine in a cool brain. Where was the mistake? What was wrong? Instead, your immediate response, what could be a more effective reply?

What you learn from this experience so that you can answer in a more effective way next time, in such similar cases. Did it help you to be wiser, stronger, kinder or more generous?

13. Use the law of attractions:

It is another important aspect to be positive. To begin with, the law of attraction is a mysterious power of human to attract those things into his life that he focuses on. We act as human magnates in every second of our life. In fact, we attract back more of our thoughts and emotions that we put out.

If we focus on the positive and good things in life, then we will attract more of them or vice versa.

At first, we are always sending positive vibes like happiness, enthusiasm, joyfulness, excitement, passionate, abundance, appreciation. As a result, we are attracting more of such positivity into our lives. These will convey their rewards. Moreover, positive thoughts are able to develop our immunity power.

On the other hand, if we try to avoid negative aspects like facing a problem, then they will come more and more in life.

14.Surround yourself with positive friends, mentors and co-workers:

If you surround yourself with positive friends, mentors and co-workers, then you will always get positive affirmations, positive stories, positive outlooks and above all positive atmosphere. It will, therefore, help you to be positive. Studies proved that a similar mentality people will make you happier. They will always help each other; although the situation may be either favourable or not.

You are interacting with people whom you love. It helps your brain to discharge neurotransmitters. These are

  • Dopamine: that make you happy and
  • Serotonin: that makes you feel relaxed.

Added to this, you can choose your gratitude partner from them. If you develop a positive network of gratitude, it, in turn, will help each other to develop.

15. Avoid negative influences:

Similarly, we will try to avoid all sorts of negative influences in our life. People and friends who surround us have a profound effect on our emotions and mentality. Therefore, we need to choose our friends cautiously.

Some of your friends may be negative. At first, you need to encourage them to be positive. If they change, then it is ok. Otherwise, you must leave them for your betterment or for your own sake.

16. Do things you love to do:

We must try to spend some time daily with such works that give us joy as well as make us happy. If we can spend some times doing things that we really love, then it will help us to be more positive.

Some positive activities are

  • Reading stories, speeches or quotes of motivation. It may be something else.
  • Listening to music.
  • Engage in sports, hobbies and etc.
  • Quality time spends with family or friends.
  • Engage in creativity like drawing, painting, writing, making toys, origami, etc.

Even we may go out to a tour. It may be for a few hours or one day or two days or weekends or even more. These will help us a great deal to be positive. May travel in places like:

These things will boost up us physically as well as mentally.

17.Workaround Passion:

As a matter of fact, we may find works or jobs that we like the most. If we work around our passion, then it will help us to be positive and give our best effort.

18.Show compassion to others:

To begin with, it is an act of kindness towards others. Mainly, we do it either for a less privileged person than me or to a really needy person. It helps to improve positivity and therefore helpful to be positive.

Researchers showed that when people do some charity, they actually feel very happy.

It will be better if you try to do at least one action of compassion daily.

19.Challenge negative thoughts:

Both negative self-talk and negative self-criticism are harming our progress in life. Some examples may be like the followings:

“I just got a “C” on this test. I guess I’m not good at math.”

“I’ll probably fail this class and never be able to go to a good college.”

These negative self-talks lower our self-esteem. Therefore, we start to think that we are worthless. So we cannot do anything in life.

Instead, we need to challenge them and say

“That situation didn’t go exactly I’d planned. I will find out another way”

“I’m such a loser. I must overcome very soon.”

We will have to think logically and rationally about our self-criticisms. If we can approach properly, then we will be able to change a lot of situation. If we can challenge negative thoughts, then it will help us to be positive.

20. Do not be afraid of failures:

At first, we will not be afraid of failures. We will take some lessons from it and make the necessary corrections to overcome the situation.  If we can gladly accept failure and learn from our mistake, then it will help us to stay motivated. Always remember ‘failure is the pillar of success’.

We will commit numerous mistakes and fall down in life. The only countable matter is how we overcome. If we want success in life, then we have to be positive and fearless of fear.

21.Overcome Traumas:

In life, we may face various types of traumas. It may be

  • Death of parents, love and relation, child, a very close relative or friend.
  • A natural catastrophe like earthquake or flood or landslide and etc.
  • Accidents
  • Abuse
  • The critical physical problem of self or some close one.

To be positive, we have to overcome such situations. If necessary, we must consult a doctor or some licensed specialist.

22.Start the day with a positive affirmation:

Remember the proverb, “morning shows the day”. Our beginning of the day will set the tone for the whole day. Therefore, we may start the day with a positive prayer. We may also say

  • I am grateful to be alive.
  • I am surrounded by positive and loving people.
  • Life is a beautiful gift.
  • I am attracting great opportunities.
  • I will make the most of the day.
  • Today will be a great and productive day.
  • I am attracting great joy into my life.
  • I am a happiness magnet.
  • My happiness grows stronger every day and etc.

Similar types of positive affirmations will help us to be positive.

23. Keep an optimistic quote in your pocket:

We may maintain a sheet of positive quotes with us. We can use them either as morning affirmations or any time of the day. It will not only help us to be positive but also supply the motivation.

Some of these quotes are:

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow”: Helen Keller.

“Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end”: Roy T. Bennett.

“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive result”: Willie Nelson.

“The sun himself is weak when he first rises and gathers strength and courage as the day gets on”: Charles Dickens.

“Happiness is the only thing that multiplies when you share it”: Albert Schweitzer.

“Live the life of your dreams. When you start living the life of your dreams, there will always be obstacles, doubters, mistakes and setbacks along the way. But with hard work, perseverance and self-belief there is no limit to what you can achieve”: Roy T. Bennett.

“No one is perfect that’s why pencils have erasers”: Wolfgang Riebe.

“If you can dream it, then you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want”: Zig Ziglar.

“Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is reached”: Swami Vivekananda.

“Take risks in your life, If you win, you can lead! If you lose, you can guide!” Swami Vivekananda.


At first, check what attributes are you already possessing. Then try to change only one or two. If you can follow even some of the sayings above, then they will help you to be positive. They will also help you a great deal to know how to live life to the fullest. As we practice them, we will progress in our positivity. With the improved positivity, we will get more and more success.

I will also request you to read the following topics related to your all-important savings. You will know why to save, how to save and where to save.  I think they will help you to save and enjoy life. But to make it a success, you need to be positive.

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